It’s been quite a while since my last post. I haven’t written until yesterday when we were told to write an essay about a topic that I wasn’t so sure about. It took me minutes to gather my thoughts. Good thing, I was able to finish a two-page essay in the end, though I was not pretty sure it reached the 1,200-word limit.
Anyway, last Sunday, the world celebrated father’s day. It feels good to know that there are fathers who truly work hard and sacrifice things just for their families. I salute you fathers of such kind. And to my father, here’s a letter that I found in my laptop drafted a year ago. I know you won’t be surprised with its content.
Dear Dad,
You’ve been away from home for four years now.
You didn’t greet me on my last four birthdays (which could have completed my days had you simply texted).
You didn’t ask how we were during and after super typhoon Haiyan, or when that 7.2-magnitude earthquake hit Bohol and created havoc in Cebu (of which date fell on mother’s birthday, October 15). You weren’t there to assure us security. You have no idea how terrified we were.
Your love for mum faded away like a house paint facing different seasons of the year. You loved another woman and you didn’t even think of the devastating consequence – our family tearing apart. Despite the unbearable heartache, we still accepted you and granted you chances. Chances, dad, not just one chance. This actually led me to wonder whether you truly love us, because with such chances, you could have mended the heartache you caused us. You could have supplied the hollow from the deep wounds with love. You could have corrected your mistakes. You could have. But instead, you found a new family – your vices – and you were inseparable. You didn’t make up, dad. You didn’t learn from your mistakes. You didn’t change for good, for me, bro and mum. You didn’t change at all. You didn’t do anything to make our family whole again. You were so light to be carried away even by the softest of winds.
You’ve always made us feel like you don’t exist, dad. Our love ones who passed away even exert efforts on making me feel their presence but you, dad, oh, you do nothing. You don’t even text me to ask how I’m doing.
I wanted to loathe you for causing us heartache and pain. For leaving us like it’s the simplest thing to do in the world. But mum tells me not to hate you because you’re still my father no matter what. You’re still my father despite everything you’ve done. You’re still my father.
And you always will be.
What makes me sad is that I never heard you ask for forgiveness. It could have just smoothened the situation. It could have just glued back the shards. It could have just made me forget what happened. But you didn’t. You even showed no regret and rather went on like nothing happened.
I used to wonder what could have gone wrong.
Eventually, I learned that you just love yourself, dad.
But then I would remember how you stood as both mother and father when mum went to Doha, Qatar to work. How you trained me to play chess and pretend like we’re in a tournament when I have gotten good with it. How you would crack corny jokes. How you always impress and leave me in awe with your ‘kugita’ (squid) dish. How you’d accompany me to internet cafes late at night to do some school works. How you would trust me even when I lie. How, at some point, I had a taste of your paternal love.
However, I still could not forget how you wasted the n chances we granted you. How you never changed when you had all the time to.
But dad, I hope you know that at the end of the day, I still long for you.
That somehow, though impossible it may seem, our family will be whole again.
That I want you to be my escort when I walk down the aisle towards the altar.
That I look forward to serving you when you’re old and sick.
That even if you never asked for forgiveness, I have secretly forgiven you.
That despite everything you’ve done, despite how I tried planting rage in my heart, such beastly thing will never sprout because a big tree of love is still alive in there, continually blooming amidst the drought.
I hope you know that at the end of the day, I could not bear hating you forever.
Because you will always be my father. A father who would always have this special place in my heart even when it’s full of patches and scars.
Because I still love you, dad.
I never stopped.
Remembering you on this father’s day and the infinite days to come,
Mel
It remind me about my dad and it feels like you are Me talking.
Now, I can’t stop crying. 😥
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Hi, ganda. You come from a broken family, too?
It’s really sad to know that there are children who are deprived of paternal love, and what’s more sad is that, such deprivation is caused by fathers, themselves (tho not in general, just in a case-to-case basis).
Now, people tell us that we must be thankful because had it not been for our fathers, we wouldn’t have been born. It occurred to me, on the contrary, that being a father is not just being a contributor of our existence – it is supporting and being with us all throughout.
But still, if we dig deeper, there will always be that space in our hearts just accorded to them. Otherwise, how could we be ever complete, right?
*hugs*
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Hello. I am too. What’s more painful is he never said goodbye to Mom or me or anyone in the family. It happens so fast we never saw it coming. Though we knew there is a third party. I mean, he’s been very supportive and all but one day we were confused why he’s not been calling or texting since he’s in abroad then everything follows until now we do not know where he is. Like you said, a father will always be a father in our hearts. No matter what he did, where he was right now, I’m still longing to see him or just to talk to him for a moment and asked why. It has been very painful for the past years especially that Im the eldest, now the bread winner of the family. But then, I promised myself that I will show him that we can surpass everything without him! We can surpass everything! 🙂 *hugs*
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I should have not read this on public. Now I can’t stop these tears from falling. 😥 😥
I feel like you are ME talking.
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Hi, AD! Tears are inevitable! Let ’em go. 🙂
You have issues with your dad, too?
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Yeah, before. But we’ve fixed it already. 😀
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Oh, glad to hear that, AD. 🙂
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Wow this resonated with me! Thanks for posting your heart out. *teary eyed*
Come back to blogging Melrice!
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Sarah? Do you have something with your dad, too? Yay thanks for the uplift. Yes I’ll try to write again. 🙂 ❤
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It’s painful to see someone who should be loving you not come up to par. It’s the price we pay for being humans I guess. Fathers, and mothers too, are all too human.
Take care Mel.
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It’s also the price of loving. At times, you don’t get love in return. But they’re our parents, they deserve our love no matter what.
Couldn’t agree with you more, Ared. Thanks for droppin by. You take care too.
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Awwwww. I hope your dad will read this. 🙂
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#ChangeIsComing 🙂 Yung soundcloud, don’t forget! 😉
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Reblogged this on P.S.A..
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🙂 You have such a beautiful heart, Mel. Be strong always.
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Awwe thank you Senga. :* You too.
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